I feel that I should write a new post, but I’m not sure that I have anything to write about. I’ve been reading a lot lately. I have always enjoyed reading, I don’t always feel like I have the time to do it. I just finished the book The Five Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman. I have had the book for some time and wanted to read it with Kris but we don’t have a lot of time to read together and I was curious, so I went ahead and plowed through it. I immediately thought that my “love language” is “words of affirmation” because I’m always desiring that. I’ve often jokingly said to Kris or Brent and Henry when I was travelling with them…”I need some affirmation.” After reading through the book, however I realized that maybe this is a second language for me. Imagine that, I’m bi-lingual after all. I think my most prominent “love language” is “Quality Time”. The book provides questions for the reader to ask him/herself and helps to determine the most needed form of love communication. The question that got me was asking what it is that makes me feel unloved. It wasn’t critical words, it was when Kris wants to spend time without me. It’s always fun to learn more about yourself. Especially when you can use that knowledge to better your relationship with your husband. Now I need to get Kris to read it and tell me what his love language is so I can better know how to manipulate him…I mean so I can love him better.
When Kris and I do have time to read together…like last night. We’ve been reading Bringing up Boys by Dr. James Dobson. This is also very interesting and honestly somewhat eye-opening for me in relation to Kris as well as preparing me for Owen’s maturing. It’s always good to understand more about the way your spouse thinks and though the things in books are general, it helps to spur conversation and dig a little deeper into the personal.
I am also reading Pride and Prejudice for the fourth time. I pick it up while I’m feeding Owen or taking a little break from things. The chapters are short and since I’ve read it several times before I don’t feel the need to storm through it. I’m just enjoying it when given the opportunity. I’ve had my own copy of it for a few years but my sister, Kristy, left me her copy which has Sense and Sensibility bonded with it as a Jane Austen two pack. I have read this book as well, but I do not have my own copy and I’m not as familiar with it. I will, of course, read it next.
Well, this is longer than I anticipated. Isn’t it funny…I thought I didn’t have anything to type. Not that I really said a great deal.
I think you did say a great deal… I am always interested in learning more about my daughter-in-law, wanting to know as much about you as I do about my son. I have read love languages and think it is a great help to a relationship. I hope Kris will get to read it and apply it, and take it seriously, where you are concerned. It sure helped me and his dad awhile back. Tell me about Bringing up Boys, does it really offer some good info for you?
Bringing up boys is good. I’ve learned a few things. I think I’ve learned a lot through observation over the years that will help me as much as the book will but the book definitely has points I had never thought of before. When I was reading it last night I thought that maybe my dad should read it. Even though my brother is an adult it still has practical relational things in it that might help him better understand some of my brother’s behavior. I never thought of you reading it…I guess I just figure you did such a perfect job on my incredible husband that you must know everything. 🙂
Actually I think that was the grace of God!